We give away our power in so many ways.
We blame others, we make excuses, we justify.
It’s so easy to let our life’s experiences be dependent on things outside of ourselves – people, events, circumstances, our childhoods even.
I’ve given away so much of my power, over the years.
Whenever I say “I don’t know how”, “I don’t have time”, “I don’t understand”, I'm giving away my power.
Maybe you're thinking “fair enough, she doesn’t have those things”. But it’s all about attitude & intention.
These statements are not about my “reality” but whether I let them have control over me.
☑️ There’s always something I can do = power 💥
☑️ There’s always another way to think, another approach = power 💥
☑️ There’s always a boundary that I can enforce, decide what I let into my mind, what I let affect me = power 💥
I don’t want to give away my power, to be a victim of circumstances.
Things happen – I know that all too well – but I get to choose my response, & taking & exercising responsibility for my life, outcomes, behaviours.
The key shift is in attitude, from helplessness to resourcefulness.
Not being the victim of circumstances, but being the master of your circumstances.
And awareness.
So pay attention. Where are you giving away your power ?
All those “I am” statements. “I AM not good at this” . “I AM this”. “I AM that”. “I AM the other”. They are beliefs, not truths, unless you let them be.
I know this can be challenging, I know it’s easier & more comfortable to just to blame other people, circumstances etc. but we get to choose.
I have here 4 suggestions on what you can do to hang on to your power
1. Be aware of your language and self-talk, especially “I can’t” statements & “I am” statements, which close down possibility. What you say, both out loud and in your own head, matters.
2. Be aware of your emotions, which are clues. For example you could be feeling resentful or bitter about how someone treats you, or you find you’re allowing others to dictate your choices. Practising assertiveness, and setting and maintaining boundaries around what you’re willing to tolerate and what you’re not – are important way off retaining personal power.
3. Be aware of justifications. “He did it to me !”. “She made me do it !”. It was because of the traffic that I was late
4. Take RESPONSIBILITY for your outcomes & life conditions. In what areas could YOU do something different, take a different action, choose a more empowering response.
Awareness & vigilance is key.
And once you have become aware, you can make a different choice, & be better able to create the life you want & deserve.
Empowered ! 💥
If you would like to speak with me about helping you move through any of this, reach out to me.
Bobbi ❤️
Inspirational speaker | Coach | Mentor
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